When I had my daughter Cadence, I stressed about being someone who just stays in the house all day. Someone who shlubbed around in yoga pants and t-shirts, unwashed. That just wasn’t me. OK, maybe it was for the first month.
Also I wanted her to be socialized (even though she was super tiny and the world was oh-so big). So I set out to surround her (and myself) with tons of people, beginning with a large baby playgroup.
At the beginning of the hour, the group leader asked the women (notice I said “women” not “moms”…you’ll see why in a second) to tell one thing about their family and one about just themselves as women. Most of these ladies had nothing to say in the second category. Nothing? They had seemed to have forgotten who they were the second they became a mom.
I spoke to a few of them afterward, and they all said the same thing: they didn’t have time to do anything for themselves anymore. One woman joked, “All my beauty is used up on making [my child] beautiful.” That didn’t sit well with me, since I believe that taking care of yourself and feeling beautiful is part of being a great mom. After all, we were women before we became moms! I wanted to put my professional writing for the beauty, fitness and fashion industries into action and help women discover they can still be beautiful and fashionable…even while potty training, going to the park and packing lunchboxes.
Let’s be honest…you can be über-busy without a child. Sure raising a child is a job. But those without can still be busy raising a career. So I welcome women without kids to enjoy Easy Peasy tips as well.
“I don’t understand how a woman can leave the house without fixing herself up a little – if only out of politeness. And then, you never know, maybe that’s the day she has a date with destiny. And it’s best to be as pretty as possible for destiny.”–Coco Chanel