It’s our anniversary today. Four years. Yes, I know. We have a little girl who turned three in March. Well, smarty pants, if you do the math correctly (don’t forget to carry the 1), she’s a honeymoon baby. Nice try.
We usually try to get each other gifts in the vein of traditional. Paper for first, second was cotton, leather for third, so on. This year it’s lame. L-A-M-E. Fruit and flowers? That’s all you people give me to work with–produce and petals?
Working within the lamest confines ever, I found nothing. I didn’t look on Edible Arrangements, cuz this isn’t a graduation party for our grandkid. But during this fruitless (HA!) search, I kept coming upon sites that had ways to keep the marriage itself a gift. Hmmm….
It’s fruity and sometimes may be a little flowery, but Keith, this is for you. Happy Anniversary.
1. Make a list of “little things” you know your partner likes and enjoys. Keep it with you, in your wallet, purse, briefcase or bathroom mirror to remind you.
His eyes light up when I tell him what a great dad he is (and trust me, he is a great dad). He loves it when I come home from grocery shopping with Ben & Jerry’s ice cream…Fossil Fuel. He secretly loves when I ask him whether he ate lunch. OK, no he doesn’t. It might bug him. But it shows him I care, at least so he must like it on some level. When he comes home, he loves when I show him photos I took throughout the day of our daughter on my IPhone. It’s even better when I text him with them while he’s at work.
2. Catch your partner doing something you appreciate. Then tell them.
It would be hard to not catch him doing something I appreciate. I have lucked myself into an amazing husband–a man who does more for me than sometimes I deserve. So, Keith: Thank you for doing the dishes every day. For letting me care for my two ailing animals with everything I had, all without questioning (or judging) my sanity. For getting up with the child every morning, and now the new puppy. For sending me links to things I need to know about (good lunch ideas for our picky daughter, blogging advice, etc). It shows me that you do think about things I don’t think you think about, I think. Thank you for back rubs while watching TV, even when I know you’re exhausted (more than likely from getting up with the kid and the pup). For vacuuming the 450 stairs in our house. For telling me I’m beautiful, whether I have a cold sore or a cold.
3. Ask your partner “What would a perfect day look like for you?” And then create together as much of that perfect day as you can.
Ooooh, oooooh. I know this one. We would be on a desert island, eating that brunch that we had in New Orleans that we were too full too eat because of the dinner we had the night before (the paté from that night can also be on the brunch menu). The Pixies would be playing in the background (the actual Pixies…they’re there…for us). Our child and our furry child would be playing in the sand. There might be a freezing cold Harpoon IPA in his hand, a dirty martini with tons of olives in mine (not exactly a beach drink, but it’s our perfect day. You can have a fruity umbrella seaside drink on yours.)
So, what do you say honey…wanna spend another 50 years together? We could go to the beeeee-ch togetha.